It might not be easy for any of us to put ourselves out there and start dating.
When dating someone who is not transgender and is not aware of your trans status, the matter can become very tricky with a variety of views about how one should proceed.
Some practical precautions needs to be considered to reduce any risks associated with disclosing in the dating situation. In a ‘normal’ dating scenario you would ensure safety by meeting in a public place for the first time, letting friends know where you are or even having a friend call in on you at a certain time to ensure things are going well. It is also a good idea to decide ahead of time whether you are planning to disclose as this will also affect where and when you meet.
Disclosure will largely depend on the type of relationship you are forming and the likelihood of this becoming a long term relationship or not.
For many trans people, their gender expression is their true expression and the very act of having to disclose may imply that this expression is in fact fake and needs disclosing.
In some ways, the act of disclosing, feels very much like “coming out” and can be quite disempowering. On the one hand, it is necessary to disclose one’s trans status for safety reasons as there have been cases where trans people have been injured, hurt or killed when their partner discovered their trans status.