I have come across many lesbians and gay men who say bisexuality is a cop-out and that I am just not owning who I am; well, I've accepted that for some there is a gray area and I wish they would too.
I am happy to be in a loving honest relationship with my girlfriend." Nancy Schimmel left her husband after 17 years, not because she was gay but because the marriage no longer worked for her; she considers herself bisexual but prefers partners who are female and feminist.
says people assume, because she was married to a man, that she must be bisexual.
She describes her views on sexuality: "Being with someone (sexually) of the opposite sex does not make that person heterosexual.
I believe strongly that I was knit in the womb as a lesbian. In high school and college, I wrote poems about girls and women I had crushes on and can also remember falling in love with my best friend at 14--as much as one can 'fall in love' at that age." Candace Talmadge agrees: "It's a question of acknowledging that which is already within you and deciding to act on it instead of ignoring or burying it in the closet.She believes the Kinsey scale is the way to look at sexual attraction."On one end of the spectrum you have strictly heterosexual and on the other strictly homosexual.She just happens to be female instead of male." Dr.Lauren Costine, Psychologist, LGBTQ Activist, and author of Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things Go Wrong, shares her journey: "Once I had worked on my internalized LGBTQ phobias, I finally felt good enough about myself to be my authentic self.