When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2,000.A full 1,600 men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.5cm of extra leg length – and she would have continued to find internet dating limited and unsuccessful.A one step Facebook log-in process leads on to a few simple questions (the most obvious – height, kids, whether you drink or smoke), a description and a photo – then you are in. To use the site fully – sending unlimited messages to other members – payment is required.You can browse a selection of pictures and ages before logging in, anything more specific requires you to become a member. As with many free or low-cost sites, ads can be frequent and feel spammy.The price and process mean only the dedicated remain – but equally, can lead to people dropping out mid-process.Controversy swirled in 2010 around its lack of same-sex matching resulting in a site launched later for gay and bisexual daters called Compatible Partners, but e Harmony now offers matching for both mixed and same sex couples from the main homepage.
Some may think it lacks the spontaneity of other dating sites – and you certainly can’t use it to get a quick date for the weekend.
It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh.
And, by the way, the tick-box that chooses whether you’re shown people with children or not can have an even more dramatic result, with 90% of the people I asked (a straw poll of 10 in the office) saying they’d chosen not to be shown people with children.
Too many members with no filter can result in either hours of swiping to find someone you fancy, or hundreds of messages in your inbox that you’ll never have time to read.
Here’s a guide to the sites to check out – feel free to leave your own recommendations in the comments below – and let us know if you met your life partner online or on an app and if so, which one. Has both desktop and mobile site and an app, plus paid-for and free singles events. It’s quite difficult to get any information on the price to use match.com’s full service.