Maybe they prefer small groups, or talk-free activities like movies or paintball?
While it’s additionally true that there’s a confidence level involved in telling rather than asking, it could just as easily be posed as a question: “What if… In my post about small talk, I described the disarming power of quirkiness. We get so used to the rote, scripted nature of human interaction that when someone dares to shake things up—to say the (nice!
eventually working up to smiling and saying hi, and then saying to them the following week, “Hey, I see you at these meetings a lot and figured I should introduce myself.
I’m Lindsay.” But you should probably change that last part. [Steve’s note: I had to use this very tactic last weekend to make some new dude friends here in Nashville! ] Now that we’re playing in the right sandbox and saying the things that others won’t, what else can little kids teach us about forging friendships?
Much of the time, when trying to meet new people, we’re encouraged to “just get out and do stuff!
” As we consider which things to go “get out and do,” let’s listen to the little kid inside of us and stick with what we’re into.