He enjoys making plans more than I do, and I enjoy carrying them out more than he does, but these aren't strong enough distinctions that we have assigned roles based on them. one of the big issues we have is that I like to debate everything. I've taken a couple various function tests and the NE NI is in one point of each other adn the Te and Ti is in one point of each other.
Once we decide who is in charge of whatever thing, the person in charge makes the final say. I like to look at all sides of every coin including a few that I may have made up. and the N's and T's are both with in a couple points of each other. on the Intj forum there was a thread showing many results of one of these tests and this was not uncommon.
Not sure if this is the appropriate forum to ask, but here goes... Don't ask hard questions before coffee in the morning. All that stuff about ideal pairings is only statistical, but when you talk about individuals it doesn't really apply. Well, I had read somewhere, I can't remember where, that INTJ men are good for INTP women, but not the other way around (INTP man, INTJ woman).
I recently met an interesting INTJ on a dating site and we plan on meeting next week. My husband values loyalty (not a problem for most INTPs), intelligent conversation (likewise), and listening without being judgmental (more of a challenge). I recommend listening to her language very carefully and doing everything you can to be clear in your communications with her. Or at least they don't see it as an exercise to work out ideas. The only reason I can think of is that men are supposed to be more assertive and decisive. (Usually along the lines of exchanging witty insults for 15 minutes straight before one of us runs out. Instead of focusing on correcting the logical inconsistencies in her argument, focus on the perspectives you think she could be missing.
Instead of focusing on correcting the logical inconsistencies in her argument, focus on the perspectives you think she could be missing. I have an ENFP friend and, as much as I find him sincerely amusing, I would never date him.
I'm sure it is that way for a reason, but I'd like to try to push my boundaries and embrace the differences while still having fun. Actually they are a great pairing, INTJs have all of the cognitive functions we don't and they use them in an order that are inspiring to us. It is because we both work hard at the relationship and follow our three rules: 1. But if you feel a good connection with your INTJ, you could be in for a very happy relationship. There is a re-match every week.) The times he is pleasant though is great. She uses her NT powers to great worldly success whereas I tend to be less practical and underachieving. I value other things besides climbing the ladder and making money. Essentially getting stuck on a single Te string of a massive Ni web that it is all meshed into. I think that a lot of the sites that list ideal pairings suck or aren't done by people who know what they are talking about.ENFP with INTJ however is actually not that bad when you compare it to what he suggested is ideal for an INTP, an ENFJ.Dominant Fe with Dominant Ti is just a horrible idea, that is just recipe for constant suppression. The things about INTJ INTP only working if the male is INTJ and the female is INTP, is total bullshit, gender of the personality types is irrelevant.We liked each other from the day we met, but actually we didn't date until we had been good friends for about 4 years.We'd had lots of philosophical conversations and done homework together and knew each other pretty well. We always say please and thank you to each other (even for things that we do every day), don't leave wet towels on the bathroom floor, try to be prompt, use napkins at meals, wish each other good morning and good night. " "The cat seems to be biting me." Well, I had read somewhere, I can't remember where, that INTJ men are good for INTP women, but not the other way around (INTP man, INTJ woman).