Conversely, the less attractive the man, the less likely he will approach a woman who is far more attractive than he is. The kind of man who values emotional intimacy often looks at a beautiful woman and thinks, “She’s out of my league.” That is the overwhelming reason why so many women are wondering why nobody (or at least nobody worth going out with) ever asks them out.That said, are there nice guys who are attractive enough and/or courageous enough to ask out a beautiful woman? Essentially, seducers view a woman’s beauty as an invitation; nice guys view it as a deterrent.Until recently, that is, since I’ve started to notice an alarming trend: In three of my last four rejections, I concluded that the guy ended things with me because I intimidated him.I call this trend “alarming” because I usually consider it delusional to blame a guy’s lack of interest on intimidation. ” is a phrase that I’ve always thought of as the battle cry for cheesy, brainless girls who are totally lacking in any charming or marketable attributes whatsoever.• The term “good in relationships” refers to men who are emotionally available, good communicators, hunger for emotional intimacy with their partner and know how to make a woman feel cherished. By definition, nice guys are missing the “seducer” gene; even if they knew how to “play the game,” their conscience would never allow them to sweet-talk and manipulate a woman for their own selfish interests.• Certainly, many beautiful women have found their soulmates. A woman turns to makeup and fashion to boost her self-esteem and make herself more desirable to men.You know, the kinds of girls who think they’re coming across as totally hot and athletic when they post a Facebook status update about going to the gym, notwithstanding the fact that they’re 15 pounds overweight and probably consumed more calories in Smart Water than they burned on the elliptical (while flipping through the pages of magazine, of course).
I realize this isn’t something I’m going to be able to solve in one sitting.
However, now that I’ve come to the repeated conclusion that intimidation played a role in my recent failed dating endeavors, I feel like maybe I should rethink my stance—especially because in all of those cases that explanation seemed completely likely and totally logical.
Therefore, I would like to figure out whether it is factually possible for a guy to reject a girl on the ground that she intimidated him. Everything about me matched up perfectly with what this guy was looking for.
It doesn’t occur to her that she’s catching him off guard, and that even though he’s trying to listen to her, her words aren’t registering because his head is spinning from the fact that a beautiful woman is unexpectedly talking to him.
The experience can be so foreign and disorienting that he comes across as a stammering fool.