Sometimes “hate the sin, love the sinner” is too much to ask and it is not possible to forgive the cheating.Nobody else can decide this for you – but I do know that regardless of whether or not you stay in the relationship, you will feel much better if you can understand this central point – a bipolar person cheats in the grip of mania – it is the illness in one of its ugliest manifestations.The cure is to stabilize the bipolar spouse and stop the mania – invariably this is best done with a proven mood stabilizer such as lithium.In this sense, there is nothing personal about bipolar infidelity.
This is a page I have wanted to write for a long time because it is SUCH an important topic, and because it is the issue I get the most questions and requests about.
Because people are living longer, many think “I don’t want to stay in this marriage for another 30 years”.‘People are also getting remarried later in life as a result as well.’Earlier this year, ONS figures showed older people were increasingly using the internet with 78 per cent of those aged 65 to 74 having ‘recently’ used it in 2017. The recent ONS said it meant they were ‘catching up with younger people in their use of the internet – perhaps trying out online dating’.
Bipolar infidelity is a common – and tragic – consequence of mania and hypersexuality.
It would not have happened if your partner had been well and stable.
It is a symptom of the disease – unfortunately quite a common one.