You are then more likely to feel ready for a new life than someone whose spouse died suddenly would be.In cases of lengthy terminal illness, it's not unusual for a new relationship to blossom even before the partner dies.After 22 months of grieving, the majority of the over-50s say it is time to move on, despite most bereaved older people waiting nearly four years (44 months) before dating again.However, when it comes to divorce or separation it is more acceptable to find a new partner quite rapidly, at around 11 months later, found a report by the online network for grandparents Gransnet.
Almost two thirds (61 per cent) felt that newly single older women were fussier about their choice of new partners than men in the same position.
You may find your grieving process doesn't coincide with other people's ideas of how it should be.
Sometimes friends or family will get impatient if you're not 'over it' after six months.
Even so, it can be helpful to use these stages as a rough guide to help you to understand sudden difficult emotions such as anger.
Recognise too that these emotions are part of a process, and that most other people also feel them.