For many gay men, bisexual men are a conquest, primarily due to the expectation that bisexual men are more masculine due to their attraction to women.Zach, a bisexual writer who hasabout the fetishization of his sexuality, says he's either fetishized by gay men or completely spurned by them.Straight women like Amanda*, 27, said she would never date a bisexual man, a decision she chalked up to her "old-fashioned" Southern roots.
I didn't want to date someone with such ignorant views on bisexuality."I could tell them I'm attracted to them until I'm blue in the face and they still won't believe me.I'm talking people I've had sex with and shown romantic interest in still thinking that I'm not really bisexual but that I'm really straight or gay."Indeed, some gay men worry bisexual men will leave them for a woman, while some straight women worry they will be left for a gay man.Recently, he told a man he had just slept with that he was bisexual."He immediately said, 'ew,' recoiled and continued, ' I don't believe in that shit,'" Zach told It's not just gay men who have issues with dating bi guys.