They have to have a certain qualities and traits and certain financial success, for instance. If you say, “If I don’t get an offer at this number, I’m not interested,” you could be looking for another six to seven months, and in that time, you might have been working at a lower salary, but you could have been A) earning money, B) gaining experience and C) positioning yourself to get a raise or have another opportunity if a position opens in the company for a different job. Greer: It’s really important to read not just the red flags, but to read yourself and to trust yourself.Monster: One difference between dating and looking for a job is that you only have a couple of interviews to decide whether a job is the right fit. Are they talking to you about aspects of the job that are really turning you on? Like dating, you want to go on your gut and think, “Do I like this person? And if it feels really uncomfortable, don’t say, “I should just take it.” Have confidence in yourself. Monster: Another commonality between dating and job searching is rejection.One of the biggest frustrations with job searching is that it can can feel like so much of the process is in someone else’s hands.What we often forget is that the biggest success factor is in our control: coming from a place of confidence.
However, I often see that the time after these low points brings the biggest successes – the connection that will change everything, the interview you’ve been waiting for. If you need a little confidence boost, read back through the accomplishments you’ve documented and spend time with the people who know and appreciate you, so they can remind you just how great you are. Back then, you’d go out to clubs or parties and see if you could meet someone new or get introduced to someone by a friend.Nowadays, we’ve gone from the simple dating sites like to a hyperlinked world with everything from Facebook to Grindr to Linked In to even more specialized sites.No matter where you see someone, you’re bound to see them somewhere else to.Recently, I started chatting with a someone online, and then noticed that he also popped up as a mutual friend of a friend on Facebook. We all have a digital presence now, and you not only need to manage that, but also figure out who the people are that you need to be connected to on order to be introduced (or bump into) their professional colleagues.