We both know what I'm really asking for but it takes the pressure off and makes it sound more casual.
This is Rule Number 7: "learn and use double-speak!
" Rule Number 8 is arguably the most important: "always be great in bed".
You have to click sexually and have that immediate attraction; otherwise what's the point?
Basically, treat them like a colleague that you're really friendly with. One of the advantages of friends-with-benefits is that the relationship isn't exclusive -- you're free to pursue and taste other fruits.
But first, let me give you some background information so you know where I'm coming from.
But it's more than just good sex: a successful sex buddy relationship requires constant sexual tension and passion.
You need to make my knees feel weak and orgasms are 100% mandatory.
We ended up exchanging numbers and we both knew from the beginning that we weren't looking for anything exclusive. Because it was the very first time I'd done anything like this I didn't know the dos and don'ts.
Once I felt I could trust him, we started meeting up for sex every chance we could get. I eventually broke Rule Number 1: "never fall for your sex buddy." By the time I became emotionally attached to him we were both involved in other casual relationships, which made things even more complicated. I've since learned that you can't really "upgrade" a f*ck buddy into a boyfriend -- if they were interested in something more they wouldn't be in this kind of relationship in the first place.