Blakeley's article is based on the claim that women are buying the lion's share of self-help books.74% of relationship and family books in 2008 were apparently purchased by women, and the Times' latest paperback advice bestseller list is certainly packed with titles targeting women (Hungry Girl 200 Under 200, Skinny Bitch, and How Not To Look Old are a few standouts).[...] It's the men that traditionally propose marriage.Imagine if it was the woman who proposed, you'd see a whole slew of books like How to Get Your Lady to Pop the Question.Try doodling, sketching, writing, listening to or playing music.Visiting museums, reading, starting a new hobby, going to concerts or changing a habit are other ways to tap into your creativity. Have a grateful and optimistic attitude about life, which naturally brings hope, happiness and confidence. You will feel better about your life if you feel good about your choices and actions while listening to your inner voice. Make time for your hobbies, get involved in your community, take a class on a topic of interest or join a local group.Interestingly, the hardcover advice list appears more diverse.
"He said he'd get to it just as soon as he was done with Remembrance of Things Past." Frank's ex-husband may have been especially literary-minded, but we're not convinced that the reason more women than men buy self-help books is because guys are too busy reading Proust.
Alpert's statement implies a corollary: Society is set up for women to be passive, and it requires women to get married in order to be deemed successful.
Thus it expects something of women while denying them actual control over it — basically, women are supposed to wait around for this socially-constructed metric of personal success to just happen to them.
Do you struggle to take care of your own needs because you feel unworthy?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you are not alone.